I have started a fitness regime as I want to be fitter for my kids and to feel better about myself. I have been really watching what I eat and working out at any chance.
I thought I was doing good until today when it all cam crashing down..........
Took the kids to the shops to buy more moogoo(the yummiest skin care in the world :P )and stopped off before leaving to buy some sushi.
I'm in line waiting patiently, my kids were behaving which was such a treat then*cue black cloud*
I get a tap on the shoulder and this little lady says to me "oh I am so sorry my grandson has just spilt milkshake all over your little one"
I said "its OK he is used to it he has a monkey of a big brother :P"
So being polite a I chat a little with her until she asks.......
"Do you know what your having?"
Ummm I honestly thought she wanted to know what sushi I was going to pick out until I asked..."sorry?" and she goes on to ask me "do you know what your having" gesturing at my stomach....my face must have gone so red I smiled and said no then laughed an embarrassing laugh and let he think I was pregnant. Thank heavens it was my turned to be served so I didnt have to engage in any more pregnancy talk.
I grabbed my sushi and fled the scene...I was gutted...do I really look pregnant? Would I be crazy enough to go again now when I don't cope some days with the 2 I have...is it her right to ask me...I wish I was quicker and said..."yes I will be having a crumbed chicken and a chicken teriyaki....or "yes we do its triplets 2 boys and a girl" that would have had her gasping for air!
I know she was being polite and making conversation but isn't that the unspoken rule you do not ask someone when they are due or otherwise unless you are 100% sure they are pregnant...or just don't ask at all!
I got in the car after eating my sushi rolls, wich would feed a tiny bird, and cried into my hands :( How can those few words hurt so much...why cant I look like some of my girlfriends who after thier babies have beautiful figures, luscious locks and glowing skin...where is my silver lining....OK I create stunning children but poor mum got hit with the ugly stick...no wait I think the WHOLE tree fell on me :)
I am OK now and can even laugh at it! Back into working out tomorrow! Wish me luck and lets hope I don't come across Nana and her milkshake throwing grandson again!
Hugs hun - I'm sure you don't look pregnant! My mum is terrible for doing this. I seriously I don't know what comes over her - I think she gets nervous and assumes if you have kids then their must be another on the way. Good on you for handling it so well
ReplyDeleteAwww Amber *big hugs*. I can't believe that lady!! 1. You don't look pregnant (really!) & 2. Who asks people questions like that without knowing for sure anyway?
ReplyDeleteYou truly are a beautiful person, I want you to stop all this talk about the "ugly stick" right now! You know what, who cares what other friends look like? I guarantee they all have their own insecurities too and are not strutting around feeling all wonderful and perfect all the time ;). They are probably just as jealous of you and your gorgeousness!
It's time to get past all the external stuff (I'm soooo guilty too, don't worry!) and focus on the fact that you are a beautiful person on the inside and that is what's most important. That's what makes you stand out to others. That's what makes other people think about you and want to be your friend. Your inner beauty is so special, you are such a caring, sweet, gentle and generous person. You feel deeply when someone is hurting and you reach out to them. You care about the environment and our children's futures. There is no amount of exersise, botox, fake tan or perfect hair that can make a person beautiful like that :)
You are special Amber, just accept it :P
Love Trish xx
You definitely don't look pregnant!! WTH!
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why people say anything unless it's like really obvious! People have started saying it to me and I think it's a bit risky this early!! Some people are stupid. You are beautiful!
thankyou beautiful ladies...I think I needed to get it out and start focusing on me. You have made me see what i needed to see! Mwah xxx
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